“I want a divorce”, he said
“Okay, we will put you under some counselling sessions and see if that works out. Is it because of your wife?”, the officer interrogated
“No she is good, i don't want any counselling sessions, it's sorted”, he retorted
“Is there some issue with your husband”, the officer asked his wife
“No, he's a nice man”, she avowed
“Then what's the problem” officer asked them
“She is very arrogant and egotistical, i want a divorce that's all”, he adamantly returned
That's how a couple after 9 years of relationship and 3 years of marriage put an end to it all.
Now the question,
Loving someone is easy but committing to someone is a skill, which very few people posses. Love is all roses but staying with a person in their highs and lows and actually making efforts to understand the person isn't easy.
Taking the example of the case mentioned, a relationship lasted more than marriage which means compatibility isn't an issue but adjusting and compromising is.
Everyone wants a relationship but no one is ready for commitments. A partner becomes too much when a chaotic phase extends for too long, a burden in life.
This chaos isn't surface level when a couple works or studies individually but it's realised when both live under a same roof.
A necessary skill to have in life is knowing your responsibility as someone's partner. Practice resolving little fights and accepting mistakes, no one is perfect. Forget about “why should i be the only one to think like that”. If you become one such person, they'll learn it from you.
Develop the skill of empathizing with people and develop a mutual trust between you and your loved ones. Life is a rough thing but when little spaces are developed, it become a cozy space to smile in days of chaos.
Invest in your good character :)